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How Can I Keep My Sanity During Our Divorce? – Lisa R. Murray

Divorce can be so overwhelming that many people going through it wonder if they can keep their sanity.  The divorce process brings about a lot of changes, from possible relocation to confusing and sometimes emotional legal proceedings, all while dealing with the uncertainty of the future. It’s no surprise that feelings of fear, anxiety, grief, anger, sadness, and overwhelming stress are also part of the process. Here are some tips for navigating this difficult period while maintaining your sanity.

  • 1) Acknowledge Your Emotions: It is essential to recognize and accept the array of emotions that come with divorce. Just like Dorothy’s whirlwind in “The Wizard of Oz,” your life may feel chaotic, but acknowledging these emotions is the first step to dealing with them.
  • 2) Make Time for Self-Care: Despite the increased responsibilities, don’t forget to take time for yourself. Even five minutes of deep breathing or a short break in your backyard can provide a much-needed mental recharge.
  • 3) Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help: Consider consulting with a mental health professional or joining a support group to help you through this challenging transition. Their guidance can offer valuable insights and emotional support during this time.
  • 4) Set Clear Boundaries with Friends and Family: Let your support network know what kind of assistance you need from them. Sometimes, all you need is someone to listen empathetically, rather than offering solutions or judgments.
  • 5) Choose the Right Divorce Process: If possible, opt for an amicable and consensual dispute resolution process, such as Collaborative Divorce or Mediation. These approaches empower you and your spouse to maintain control over the outcome, reducing stress and uncertainty. Whereas, going to court to resolve the issues will increase stress and anxiety.
  • 6) Consider Choosing Collaborative Divorce: Collaborative Divorce includes support from professionals like mental health experts and financial advisors as you go through the process. This additional support can make the process more manageable and less stressful.

Divorce is one of the most challenging periods in anyone’s life, but it doesn’t have to drive you to the brink.   By acknowledging your emotions, prioritizing self-care, seeking professional assistance, setting boundaries with your support network, and choosing the right divorce process, you can navigate this transition with greater ease and maintain your mental well-being. Remember, you have the strength to emerge from this experience stronger and ready for a brighter future.

Lisa R. Murray is an experienced Collaborative Divorce and Mediation Attorney.  She can help you to determine the goals for your divorce and work to a settlement that allows you to achieve those goals.

She can be reached at 650-297-0367